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You can have it all and feel empty
It’s been an amazing year… but does life feel a little empty?! TBS is usually all about breaking from behaviours that no longer serve us (or never served us at all). However, this edition is for those that have had an awesome year and need to reflect and accept all the goodness that this represents! Sometimes my role as a life coach is to remind clients “Hey, it’s not all bad, you have made progress… enjoy!” or “Wake up, smell the roses!”
Master your focus and make 2023 your best year yet
Do you know why most people don’t achieve what they want? It’s because they get distracted and lose focus along the way. To master your focus, you need to be able to focus beyond just the occasions that suit you. It is your ability to lock your mind in with frequency, often during the times when you would rather be doing something else. So, how do you master your focus? Read on to find out.
Living your life in a toxic relationship
Toxic relationships do not only refer to romantic relationships. They can happen between friends, family members, at work… This edition's of That’s BS newsletter tackles the serious topic of living in a toxic relationship. How to recognise if you are in one, what to do when you're deep in it, life coaching strategies to try and instill some change in the relationship's dynamic etc. Read on for more.
How to go from overwhelmed with life to in control of YOUR life
Sick and tired of feeling overwhelmed? The world sucks right now but YOURS doesn’t have to! It's pretty safe to say that at some stage since 2020, the pressures of life due to external, out-of-our-control events have created overwhelming emotions in all of us. This TBS newsletter will give you practical strategies to go from overwhelmed with life to in control of YOUR life. Read on for more.
How to speak your truth and be heard
The time has come to speak your truth (again)! People often talk to me about their inability to speak up, find their voice. Sometimes it's at work but more likely though, that occurs in other parts of life, in romantic relationships, with family members... This article provides practical tips to those who struggle with finding their voice and/or have fallen into a self-silencing pattern. Read on for more.
What to do when anger takes over
Anger control can be really difficult but anger is a learned unhelpful behaviour which can be controlled, which means that it can be unlearned too. This edition of That’s BS newsletter is going to be really useful if you ever find yourself reacting angrily to situations, whatever they may be, leaving you feeling really crap about how you've handled that and wondering why that just keeps happening without a clue on how to stop it. Read on for more.
How to make big decisions 101
Do big decisions scare the sh1t out of you? We’re talking that one BIG decision, the one burning a hole in your mind… looming… the one you’re not making [whatever your reason is] when you know in your core that you should. And that if you don’t, you’ll keep thinking about it feeling incomplete and unfulfilled. This edition of That’s BS newsletter gives step-by-step strategies on how to make big decisions in your life. Read on for more.
Their opinion doesn’t define you, here’s why
We say opinions are like assholes… everyone has one but they think each others stink. Well, what to do when it’s far too common for people to give their unsolicited opinion and when it affects your ability to make choices or live the life you really want to live because you care too much about others’ opinion? This edition of That’s BS newsletter gives strategies to help you block out the external noise, care less about others’ opinions and go on with what you are meant to be or do. Read on for more.
My rationale for my irrational thinking
We all have irrational thoughts that creep into our mind at the worst possible time but what happens if you think your irrational thoughts are actually serving a real purpose and are based on solid foundations? AKA what I call rationalising irrational thinking. This edition of That’s BS newsletter explains why irrational thoughts are complete BS and how to discern a regular thought from an irrational one. Then what to do about them. Read on for more.
Is finding the time for what matters a struggle?
Understanding the principles of time management through a course or a book is useful but if you ask me, you would be wasting your money and your time (!) because the true synonym of time management is… wait for it… PRIORITIES! And that starts with you and the type of strategy applied to what you have going on. It’s about clarity, schedule and commitment. Read on for more.
Playing the victim card is BS!
Certain behaviour patterns are associated with the ‘victim mentality’. The professional victim has a strong tendency to negativity at signs of any friction and challenge in their life. Self-sabotage is a huge ongoing habit. Sadly, playing the victim card is often just driven by a need for validation or sympathy.
Pandemic waste: COVID made me waste the last 2 years of my life
We all lived through these times differently but now that it feels like the world is opening back up, you might be feeling like the last 2 years have been a monumental pandemic waste of time. Do you wish that you had used this time better now that we are getting back to normal life?
Do you consider yourself a perfectionist?
50% of the people I coach identify as perfectionists. Early on in life, they wore it like a badge of honour, a behaviour that will lead to success BUT more often than not, it’s not about trying to do something the best way ever, it is about getting a stamp of approval from someone else.
Procrastination: I can’t even think about that right now
Procrastination has a cost and it’s not what you think it is - it’s you! When is it ever the right time to take massive action? Do you have "this will never work" objections running wild in your head? If you haven’t heard of the term "limiting beliefs" that’s exactly what those objections are and they are not your friend, they are holding you back. Read on to understand what to do about them.
The blame game: When it's always someone else's fault
For many people, assigning blame versus owning what actually happened is much easier. My 3 year old does it when he’s been caught doing something he wasn’t supposed to, he sometimes even blames the dog! Now, in real life, adults can’t blame the dog - that would make them look a tad crazy - and adults know better, right?
Exploring the meaning of legacy on Radio Toni (Podcast)
Luke Fenwick talks to Toni Lontis, host of Radio Toni Every Day Business and Toni TV; about all things legacy, his own journey, happiness and gratitude, the power of beliefs etc.
Why a life coach?
The right life coach can help you understand those beliefs and results in your life and help you aim at new beliefs, habits and goals. A life coach is there to help you create the game plan that will get you to your goals just like a sporting coach creates the game plan for his team and they execute it together.